If we are willing to look “underneath” a behavior, and see the need that is trying to get met, we can start reframing behaviors that on the surface don’t make much sense (but that actually have a very intended purpose). Reframing behaviors as needs trying to get met can help us understand ourselves, as well as how we are relating to others.

We often think of finding your purpose as this thing that you do, a space you arrive at, and having arrived there...the heavens part and golden light shines down, and you skip off into the sunset because now you’ve got a purpose and life is great. (Spoiler alert: it doesn’t quite work that way). In today’s podcast episode, I’m busting some of the popular myths about finding your purpose and inviting you into using today--yes, this today--as your moment to find your purpose in the here-and-now.

Since habits are behind so much of what we do (or avoid doing) in our lives, we need to look at how to change a habit if we want to make positive change. If you decide you want to shift something big in your life, looking at only the thing you want to shift--without the habits that underlie your past behaviors--will only get you so far. In today’s podcast episode, we’re examining how to change a habit and breaking down each piece of the process.

Finding the opportunity amid difficult circumstances isn’t something pithy self-help statement. It’s not “toxic” positivity. It’s not naive optimism. Reframing difficult circumstances and finding the opportunity available is a resilience strategy that helps people to alleviate sadness, worry, fear. That’s what we’re talking about in today’s podcast.