I have been saying, "The resistance needs your resilience." We cannot draw water from an empty well. We cannot give what we do not have. This means that it's imperative for all of us to do our own personal work to vent the excess stress and fear that keeps us from feeling capable of creating positive change.

In a different episode of the Your Courageous Life podcast, I talked about "how to be tougher." In that episode, I shared that being "tougher" isn't about harshness. In this episode, I'm talking about how to be softer, and especially this--being softer doesn't mean being weaker, though for someone like me (who is far more experienced with cultivating toughness) it might mean that I get walked on a few times as I learn the nuances of discernment.

In this episode, I talk about how to be tougher ...except it's not what you think. I do think that people need to be tougher, but in a very particular and specific way, one that enhances who they are rather than breaking them down. Learning how to be tougher involves integrity and accountability (and, in the next podcast episode that I share, don't worry--I'll be talking about how to be...softer).

So...you want to change your life. This is a big topic for me, both because I'm someone who wants to change her life and because I talk to a lot of clients who say that they want to change theirs. So how does that actually happen? And when you want to change your life but it's just not happening, why is that?