Declaring sovereignty

We need to start declaring sovereignty over our lives—which is to say, we need to stop waffling, and start making more decisions in the direction of what we actually want, most.

Waffling equals suffering. When we spend a lot of time going back and forth, back and forth, wanting to do this, but also wanting to do that, adding in a lot of “But what about…?” phrases into conversations, waffling endlessly…we suffer.

We would get somewhere faster, and suffer less, if we declared sovereignty over ourselves and said, “I’m going to choose a direction, try it out, see if it works, evaluate it, and then choose differently if I need to pivot.”

There is power (sovereignty) in simply declaring the next step.

Sometimes life just asks for some step, in some kind of direction. It doesn’t work to try and to sort out all of the feelings about the decisions and try to feel no discomfort, before taking action.

I’m not saying that you should never take a pause to contemplate all options.

I’m saying that at a certain point once you’ve looked at the options, you need to either be all the way in, or all the way out; the process of debating which direction to take takes up far more energy than it would take to simply follow a particular path.

We can declare sovereignty over our lives when we simply say: Look, I don’t have it all figured out, but with the knowledge and tools and resources that I have right now, this seems like the next right step. I’m taking it.

To declare sovereignty is to decide to look directly and head-on at the places in life where suffering is happening due to indecision, and simply decide that you’ll accept the inevitability of uncertainty as you step forward–because what else is there?

You aren’t going to make all the perfect decisions.

Even the choices that “look good on paper” can end up being the “wrong” decision for you.

You aren’t going to get out of the discomfort.

Even if you make the choices that are most comfortable, life can shift and suddenly, something changes and it is no longer for you, any longer.

Declaring sovereignty over your life is to declare you’ll no longer be run by the voice of Fear that has you scattering first in one direction, then in another, never settling on any absolutes for what you will do.

Decide. Choose. Commit. Stop waffling. It isn’t serving you.