Let’s save some time: people don’t radically change because you criticize them. People change when they see your example. People change through example when they see that you radiate, when you benefit from whatever you’re doing (whether that’s a new meditation, exercise, or anything else). Want to influence others? Change them through your example. Here’s how.

When life throws me a curveball, I’m not inclined to immediately try to make the best of the situation any more than anyone else. First, it impacts me. It’s a conscious effort of will to decide to see things through a different lens, so that the curveball doesn’t become a knock out. This is the path out .

Practicing courage when you hate your job might seem like the last thing you’re capable of doing, which to me is all the more reason to actually do it. Face the things that seem “impossible” and use them as your training ground for life’s challenges. That’s going to feel better than simply repeating, “I hate this” every time you walk through the doors.

Trusting the process is tough—but it’s not bullshit. Sometimes when it’s difficult we want to give up entirely, even when that’s the last thing that we should do. Here’s how to step deeper into truly trusting the process when things are uncertain.