In my own desire to become more independent and truly live a courageous life, I've got to be honest: it was a difficult day, the day that I realized that--holy shit--there was no coach, no workshop, no therapist, no book that I could buy that would make me feel whole. That job, that work, that journey... was mine alone. (And thank goodness for that!) Here's more on how to become more independent.

I talk to all of my clients about how we build up our armor through fear routines, cover ourselves with protective layers, and how to use practical and useful tools to let go of those fear routines. We have to learn how to stop denying them because only when we acknowledge them, can we change them.

I wanted to talk more about this “making things into problems” thing--specifically, where it comes from, and what we’re doing when we make things into problems. And, I wanted to talk about how to accept your life in a way that's deeply real and pragmatic.

Stop-doing lists? Love ‘em. Like reverse psychology, they get me off the treadmill of do, do, do--add add add--and into the space of letting go. So put this on the stop-doing list: Stop making things into “problems.